
I was a rising junior at Vanderbilt University. I was taking a Sociology course and needed a topic for a research paper. I wanted to write a paper about a topic regarding African Americans. So, I went to the Director of Vanderbilt’s Black Cultural Center for ideas. He told me about this epidemic, AIDS, and how it was ravaging the black community. I had never heard of it…and, it was decimating the black community? As I read and heard more about this disease, I became more intrigued…and, frankly, a little frightened.
In the late 1980s, the disease had two ugly heads in two different ethnic communities. In the White community, it was primarily a gay, male disease. In the black community, it was being transmitted through intravenous drug use, through sex with IV drug users and through the birth canal. The late 1980s statistics revealed the disease’s havoc on the black community. If my memory serves me well, the headlines were:
- 25% of men with AIDS were black
- 51% of women with AIDS were black
- 70% of children with AIDS were black.
After completing my research paper that summer, I remember sitting in the cafeteria with some guys. As typical, testosterone-laced teenage males do, we were in the midst of conversation about young ladies who were held captive by our wit, intelligence, fine apparel and ripped physiques. One of the guys began to discuss a young lady who was under his spell…and the lengths she would go to please him. Suddenly, the conversation stopped being funny…for me. I began to think about this the epidemic killing the black community that few people knew about…even these “brothas” with their exceptionally high SAT scores. And, they were now putting themselves at risk!
Later that year, the Director and I did a couple of seminars at black churches on AIDS. I vividly remember the queasiness of “church folks” as the transmission of the disease was explained. Being one of those “church-folks” too, I felt badly for them and for me. After one of those seminars, the Director concluded his presentation with a statement I have never forgotten.
“In ten years, everyone will know someone who is HIV positive.”
Then, I thought it was a bold, statistically-driven conjecture. On one hand, I thought the statement was pretty cool. I thought I was in the midst of science in the making. In fact, I thought, “Someday, I want to be smart enough and have the credentials to make bold predictions such as this.” At the same time, I wanted him to be wrong…dead wrong! This disease, in its current trajectory, would significantly change the sexual relationships of the next generation of black teens. I was scared for me and for those who followed after me.
It was sometime in 1990…
I took a weekend trip from Nashville, Tennessee to Memphis to visit my two older brothers. Chris, my oldest brother, was 18 years my elder. Nick, my other brother, was approximately 18 months my elder. Nick and I grew up in close quarters with one another. We fought. We collected sport cards. We argued. We played basketball, football, baseball and ran track together. As tots, we flocked to Chris’s bedroom to listen to his to his stereo, were amazed by his album collection, and recklessly tried to dance to his 70s Soul music. Given his age, Chris soon moved out of the family home, and eventually made his home in Memphis. He came home for holidays and special events. Whenever Chris came home, it was like Christmas to us. We wanted to stay up until he arrived…and probably asked my Mom endlessly for the time of his arrival. We loved him dearly.
By the time of my trip to Memphis, Chris, a bachelor, was developing a business in property management; he and Nick lived in one of the houses he owned. For me, it was a rare opportunity to catch up with both of them. Sometime during the weekend, I ran an errand with Chris. As I was riding in the car with him, he suddenly shifted the conversation.
“Carter, you know that I’m gay.”
Quite frankly, I wasn’t too shocked by this statement. Being an attractive-looking man, many older women would ask if he were married yet. When I said, “No,” they would give me a perplexed look then drop the conversation. As Nick and I grew older, we somewhat suspected it; however, we never discussed it. Regardless, his confirmation of our suspicion still jolted me; however, his next statement took me completely by surprise.
“And, I’m HIV positive.”
What?!?!?! He might have told me how he got the disease or when, but I don’t remember hearing it. I knew how, but, I surely didn’t want to know the details of his acquisition of the disease. I was and still am one of those “church-folks.” The jolt and vivid memory of this conversation was not his admission of being HIV positive, but knowing that this admission represented a death sentence to him. How do you wrap your head around the fact that your "big" brother is going to die?
It’s now three years later. 1993.
Chris had been faithfully battling the complications of his HIV infections. Since I lived in another city, the disease had an abstract face…a series of brief illnesses… numerous medications…and physical strength that vacillated from high to low. To be honest, I really didn’t know how to handle being near him. So many myths about the disease abounded. Remaining distant…keeping it abstract was a safe response for an immature person. But, the abstractness would soon be crushed by the stark reality of the disease.
Later that year, I took a weekend trip with my Mom to Memphis. It was during this trip that I saw the brutal face of AIDS…up close and personally. Whatever distance and abstractness I wanted to maintain was forcibly removed. When we got to Chris’s house, he had not eaten in the past 24 hours. He seemed weak and listless. He spoke slowly, seeming to expend considerable energy with each thought that preceded each spoken word. Wanting a hamburger, Chris and I got in the car and drove to a nearby McDonald’s restaurant. I bought him lunch, and watched him slowly try to consume his food. Being too tired to finish, he took most of the food back to his house. Trips to Mickey D’s haven’t provided me many life-long, vivid recollections, but, the painful weakness of my brother’s struggle to consume his lunch will never leave my memory.
Later that afternoon, I took him to what I thought was a clinic. Instead, it was a section of a Memphis hospital that focused on treating HIV/ AIDS patients. I can still feel the stillness of depression hovering above me as I walked into the facility. As we walked down the hallway, I noticed that all of the patients were so young…some appeared not much older than me. Black. White. Male. Female. They all seemed frail and weak. And, the silence on the hallway was deafening. I don’t remember anyone talking. Just random coughing…hoarse, raspy coughing…ones that hurt as they leave your lungs and scratch the tender lining of your throat as they pass by and exit your mouth…And, the rapid, patter of shoes tapping quickly across the floor as if an extended stay in the hallway was a health hazard.
After a long wait, we finally saw his physician. Chris sunk into a chair and introduced me to his doctor. Then, the doctor proceeded to review Chris’s cocktail of twenty-one or so prescriptions. I remember thinking to myself:
"How, in God’s name, can he possibly remember to take all of these pills at the proper time? Is this medical treatment or trial-by-fire?!?!?!"
As the doctor proceeded to ask Chris questions, Chris tried to answer, but he was drained of energy. He was so tired. So, I took charge. Frankly, I was just a little pissed off. On one hand, I felt like he was getting adequate care; but, I felt it lacked the compassion that one can only feel when it is someone close to you. Given his condition, I pressed to have him admitted into the hospital that afternoon. I remember the look on Chris’s face when he was settled into his hospital room. From the comfort of soft bed, he gave me a faint smile…and a sigh of peacefulness. He was the older brother…almost 18 years older than me. But, I was now caring for him.
While he was finally getting some rest, I was still racked inside. As soon as he was settled, I ran for the door…I couldn’t take any more. In my heart, I knew the end was near; but I couldn’t bring myself to admit it.
Chris courageously held on for another year. When he became unable to care for himself, my Mom moved Chris back home to Jackson, Tennessee. In those final months, I don’t remember if I saw Chris alive; I don’t know if I could have handled it. He was in intense pain. And, there were more medicines to manage this pain. It was during these times that I struggled between prayers for a miraculous healing and a quick exit. Although I wanted a miracle, I knew that he would never be the same; we humans seem able to sustain the functioning of individual organs longer than we can retain the spirit of the person we knew and loved. It was at this point that I begrudgingly wished him a peaceful eternal rest and the presence of his Maker. Gracefully relieved of his intense pain, Chris died in August, 1994.
A year or so after the death of my brother, I engaged in a conversation with a colleague about the AIDS crisis. I had some strange perception that this subject could become “academic” again. As this colleague and I relayed our understandings of the impact of the disease, our conversation became increasingly loud. Unaware of my brother, the person suddenly proclaimed in so many words, “Gay folks are getting what they deserve!” This person might as well have pummeled me on the head with a bat. I was hurt to the core. The wound of Chris’s death was still fresh and barely healed. I guess this subject will never again be “academic” for me.
Since the death of my brother in 1994, AIDS has continued to ravage the black community. Infection rates continue to rise, but the life spans for those with good health care plans have been extended. In the late 1980s, black men died within a couple of years of the diagnosis (predominantly because of the lack of preventative health care and delays in diagnosis). Today, those who maintain healthy diets, can afford the newest medications and make regular doctor visits, can live longer lives being HIV positive.
As we celebrated the 2009 National African American AIDS Awareness Day in early February, the statistics for black folks are worse than when I began tracking the disease over 20 years ago. The CDC reports:
- 49% of the Americans diagnosed with HIV/AIDS are black folks.
- 63% of children (under the age of 13 years) diagnosed with HIV/AIDS are black children.
- 41% of all men living with the disease are black males.
- 64% of all women living with the disease are black women.
For black men, the most common means of acquiring the disease is (in rank order):
- Having unprotected sex with another man who is HIV positive
- Sharing needles and syringes with someone who is HIV positive
- Having unprotected sex with a woman who is HIV positive
For black women, the most common means of HIV acquisition is:
- Having unprotected sex with a man who has HIV
- Sharing needles and syringes with some who has HIV
For black folks, as a whole, HIV/AIDS strikes with greater frequency, kills a higher percentage of blacks and does it in a shorter time frame than any other ethnic group in America.
Regarding youth, the CDC’s 2008 report on HIV/AIDS among Youth cites that black youth and young adults, 13-24 years old, were disproportionately affected by HIV infection. Our youth accounted for 55% of youth HIV infections. Similarly, the CDC’s latest national Youth Risk Behavioral Survey (YRBS) reported that black teenagers (in the 9th-12th grades) were more likely than White or Hispanic teens to:
- Have ever had sexual intercourse,
- Be currently sexually active
- Have had sexual intercourse for the first time before the age of 13
- Have had sexual intercourse with four or more persons
So, where do we go from here? How will we prevent the rapid infection of the next cohort of black teens? Another generation awaits the same pain that I have endured. Although I am short on solutions, I know that it will take more than “church-folks” exclaiming the sinfulness of homosexuality; however, the answer doesn’t necessarily lie with a miraculous cure. We must do more to educate black youth about the disease; moreover, we must also commit to changing behaviors that place us at risk for acquiring it. The acquisition of HIV/AIDS is directly linked to certain high-risk behaviors (See the CDC’s list above). It doesn’t just happen to you. Regardless of your lifestyle or belief structures, if one abstains from these high-risk behaviors, your risk for catching HIV/AIDS is fairly low.
In the end, those who acquire HIV/AIDS deserve our love and support. Whether they were raped in prison, had a homosexual relationship, injected themselves with an infected syringe or slept with a man or woman inflected with HIV, we are all Samaritans on the Jericho Road. Though doing so may seem to be dangerous and an intrusion on our time, we should go to them, “take them to an inn and take care of them.” Today, black youth who contract the disease have the possibility of living a longer life than my brother, Chris. Regardless of our fears, these young brothers and sisters should not be forced to live or die alone. Each one of them is a "Chris"—someone’s brother, sister, son or daughter. And, somebody, like me, is crying inside for them.